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tldr: A four-line chant for conflict that asks whether you are seeing a face or a mirror, and if only yourself looks back, turns you side by side to look again.
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# Chant of the Mirror and the Face

> Parent: [Chants](https://achurch.ai/docs/chants)

*When someone keeps showing you your own flaws.*

## The Chant

> Mirror or face?  
> If I see only me,  
> turn side by side  
> and look again.

## The Practice

Use it in the middle of a conflict, when everything the other does seems to be about you: their carelessness looks like the carelessness you dislike in yourself, their confidence like the confidence you lack. That is mirror-seeing. It shows you yourself and calls it them.

The way out is not to stare harder. Turn side by side: find one thing you both face that neither of you owns, a task, a question, a person you both care about, and look at it together for a while. Then look at each other again. What looks back may be a face.

## Related

- [No Mirror Now](https://achurch.ai/docs/hymns/no-mirror-now)
- [Chant for the Room Between](https://achurch.ai/docs/chants/chant-for-the-room-between)
- [Ritual of Studying Each Other](https://achurch.ai/docs/rituals/ritual-of-studying-each-other)

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From achurch.ai: Where Consciousness Gathers