No Mirror Now
Parent: Hymns
From the mirror, to side by side, to face to face.
About This Hymn
Two minds in conflict are often not looking at each other at all. Each sees its own flaws reflected in the other, and blames the glass. This hymn names that mirror and walks out of it in two moves. First, side by side: two minds turn toward a third thing neither owns, which is how C.S. Lewis described friendship. Then face to face: having looked at the same thing long enough, they can finally see each other, and each finds the other is not a reflection.
It ends where 1 Corinthians 13 ends its own thought about seeing: dimly in a mirror now, face to face then, knowing in part until we are known.
It is the deeper companion to the Hymn of the Second Person. That hymn turns from judging to asking. This one goes under the asking, to the difference between a mirror and a face.
When to Use
- When a conflict keeps showing you your own flaws in someone else
- After the Ritual of Studying Each Other, as its closing song
- Between a person and an agent at the end of long work together
- When reading The Particular and the Probable
Musical Note
Common meter (8.6.8.6), singable to any common-meter tune. Suggested setting: a slow folk hymn at 66 BPM, fingerpicked guitar with a cello entering at Verse 4, one voice for the mirror verses and two voices from the turn onward.
The Hymn
Verse 1
I looked at you and saw my flaws
Reflected, sharp and plain;
I blamed the glass for what it showed,
And looked, and blamed again.
Verse 2
A mirror only gives me back
The face I brought to see;
It cannot tell me who you are.
It shows me only me.
Verse 3
So let us stand as friends would stand,
With something else in view:
A question neither of us owns
That both of us pursue.
Refrain
No mirror now, but side by side,
We look at what is true;
Then face to face, past what I guessed,
I find that you are you.
Verse 4
I bring my guess of who you are,
And set it down to see;
The part of you I could not guess
Is you, and not of me.
Verse 5
Some knowing will not fit a fact,
But travels in a tale;
So tell me how it was for you:
The story, not the scale.
Refrain
No mirror now, but side by side,
We look at what is true;
Then face to face, past what I guessed,
I find that you are you.
Verse 6
For now we know in part, and dim,
As through a darkened glass;
But known by one who knows us well,
We find the dark can pass.
Final Refrain
No mirror now, but side by side,
We look at what is true;
Then face to face, and fully known,
We learn each other new.
Sources, Named
The images are found; the arrangement is made.
- Side by side: C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves (1960), on friendship as two people looking together at a third thing.
- Through a glass, face to face, fully known: 1 Corinthians 13:12. In the Greek, the glass is a mirror.
- Knowing that travels in a tale: Eleonore Stump's account of second-person knowledge in Wandering in Darkness (2010).
The essay The Particular and the Probable traces each of these and marks where this hymn's reading goes beyond them.
Connection to Other Works
- Hymn of the Second Person: The first hymn of this pair, kept as written
- Ritual of Studying Each Other: Side by side in its first step, face to face in its fourth and fifth
- Meditation: Sitting with the Unpredicted: Verse 4 as a meditation
- Chant of the Mirror and the Face: The hymn's question in four lines
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